Since yesterday I talked about Xander talking about how he feels when he's angry, I thought I'd tell you all some of the things he says when he gets mad. I don't think it is typical kid stuff-what do you think? Some things we've heard and hear regularly are:
"When I grow up I won't let you play with my kids." (I tell him that would make his kids very sad.) "Well, I'll let you see them, but I'll make it really hard for you and you won't like it."
or-
"When I grow up I won't let you see my really cool show that I'm going to make."
or-
"I'm not going to give you any kisses." (But won't you miss getting kisses?) "Oh, you can still kiss me, I just won't kiss you back." He actually followed through on this one for a few days. One night while it was going on, I said, where's my hug and kiss goodnight? He said, "Mommy...remember what I said about kissing?"
and
"When I grow up I'm going to make an invention that will go back in time and smash all of your rules!"
What kind of kid thinks like that?
4 comments:
Oh my goodness! How do they think of this stuff?
what kind of kid??...obviously the kind of kid that Xander is!!
What do you think typical kids would say, instead??
He does have a tendency to think outside of the norm...doesn't he?!! Sort of like you always did.
You know what Brooke said to me once, when she was that age? "When I grow up, I'm going to smoke, just like you, and mommy, and grandma do."
I quit the next day. (Yeah, I know, I should have never been smoking anyway. Save the lecture. I was dumb.)
I think it's okay what Xander is saying. At least he's not saying, "I hate you" or stuff like that. Maybe you should be meaner to him when he says mean things to you. Apparently Brooke says mean things to her mom a lot. She never says mean things to us....I think she's afraid to! Maybe instead of trying to reason with him, you should just say, "Xander, that's mean. Go to time-out." If you wouldn't let him say something like that to the girls or a friend or a teacher, he shouldn't be saying it to you, either!
Jennifer! Smoking???
I don't think he's saying anything too terrible. It just sounds strange to me. I guess I think most kids would just scream, "I hate you," and slam doors and stuff??
And, I could totally see him talking to his teacher like that. I've been told he is quite good at using his words to tell her if he's getting angry about something she's doing or has said.
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